Hello Ms. Allen: I write to you today because I am in a very stressful financial situation (at least this is for me). About a month a go I moved in with my aunt and uncle due to my financial situation. I have a good job, good health and a fairly good living situation. The reason I write you is because I continually live paycheck to paycheck. I am a mental health therapist and constantly feel drained by my work especially knowing that I do not have extra money for additional expenses (DEBT) I need to pay off. I am wondering if bankruptcy is a better option since I owe too much on my vehicle, student loans ($66k) pay child support on my first child ($250) and I am a single mom of a 2 1/2 yr old that currently is not receiving ANY help from her father (will be filling this week for support but he supposedly has no job). PLEASE HELP Ms. Allen, your insight is greatly appreciated!! My name is M M (08/23/76)....God Bless you and the work that you do! Dear MM: I would think twice about going bankrupt. It would follow you forever and it is hard to get off your financial records. According to your planets, this is actually a good year to seek a better paying job. Now and lasting until the spring of next year, your opportunities for job and work promotion are very good. In terms of the car, try to sell it, or give it back to the dealer ship and get a cheaper car. Be prepared to deal with that on your credit history instead of an entire bankruptcy, but this is a good time to seek professional credit help from one of the numerous nonprofit credit agencies that are accredited by the state you live in. They will sit down with you and help you straighten it all out for a low fee. One more thing, it is important that you take vacations at least once a year for your own mental health. Consider it as a must do maintenance for yourself! Your planets are good this year and you will come out better if you seek professional help and not to anything drastic! Stay calm and think! Kim Allen
Dear Kim: I hope everything is good with you. I love to read your daily Horoscope and every month you’re on target. With that said I NEED YOUR HELP!!! My b-day is 3-23-82 and the guy I am seeing is 6-2-73 his initials are J.C and mine are E.M. We are going to hit one year in august but he doesn't act serious and very mysterious in his own ways; honestly he has everything I have been looking for in a guy. But is he really the one that's my question or he has someone already? Please help me Kim because I haven't lied to him and I don't want to be taken for a joy ride I think one year is enough of a chance for him to know what he wants. In desperate need of the truth, whatever it is I want to know so I can either move on or stay by his side. HELP ME!!!! Dear Aries: Ambivalence follows your boyfriend because he has 4 planets in Gemini, meaning that he can often have a difficult time in making up his mind and he is capable of changing his mind at any time. For him, he is not what he says that mattes, but what he does. How does he treat you is the real question and does he act has though he is commit to you? If the answers are no, then the truth is that you don’t have much of a relationship with him. I do see the chemistry between the two of you, but not much else. Your planets suggest that you are ruled by your heart and not your head and for him it is the opposite, things have to make sense to him before he makes a move! The Tarot cards suggest that you are more invested in this relationship than he is, so watch your step. Things may not turn out the way you had wanted! Be brave and see things as they are! Kim Allen
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Dear Ms. Allen: Not to take up to much or our time, I would first like to say that I respect you for what you do. Helping people! Right now my funds are low. So if you could just take the time out of your hard schedule and just send me one word I would forever be grateful. My b-day is 4-27-86 I am 24 years old with three children and a husband. I just want know is my relationship worth hanging in there. His name is MB, 9-1-78. If you could just send me a yes or no please. Dear Taurus: Your planets indicate that both you and your husband either want freedom or some sort of break in your relationship. I won’t give you a yes or no answer, but I will suggest that before you walk away all together that you try counseling to see if there is anything left in this relationship to salvage. By the winter of this year, if something is not done to mend your marriage there is a strong chance that your marriage will be over! Your planets indicate that you are ready to go! Be Well! Kim Allen |
Good afternoon Kim: I know you get millions of these emails but I can only hope that God will direct
you to mine. Any help that you can give me would be so appreciated. My birthday
3/23/1987 7:55AM in Chestnut Hill PA. I have a two year old daughter with a man
whom I am engaged to (08/14/1980). We have been together for the past 5 years;
he is the only man I have ever been intimate with. 3 years ago he cheated on me
while I was pregnant with our daughter; I found pictures of them having sex on his
phone. I was torn to pieces but we moved on together. Recently, I found out he went
to Atlantic City with another woman whom he led me to believe was just a friend
all along. These past few weeks him and this other woman have been texting each
other constantly (I saw the phone bill). It kills me that he wakes up and kisses me
and his daughter and goes and talks to this other woman ALL day long. I have a
gut feeling something is going on but I cannot force myself to believe this for some
reason. I am emotionally unstable and the sad part is my daughter is seeing this.
She keeps asking "why is daddy making you cry?” We do not fight in front of her,
he works long days so she barely sees him. We currently live at his parents’ house.
I need to get myself out of this situation for it is making me physically sick. I know
it is unhealthy. I do not have enough money for me and my daughter to move out
on our own from his parent’s house and I do not have family who I can go to. At
this point, I need to know what steps to take. He knows that I am trapped there.
He knows I am not financially stable and I have nowhere else to go. I know what
I need to do is leave this situation and move forward but it is extremely hard to do.
My daughter loves her dad and constantly asks for him while he is at work. How
do you tell a 2 year old that she isn't going to iving with both parents anymore?
On top of this I love him to despite what he has put me through and I hope we can
k it out. I just started paying back student loans and have on p of that about
$3000 in debt. My current job is full time but only pays $9.00 an hour, which is not
getting my where I need to be financially. I am just lost, confused and heartbroken.
I know I need to keep my head up for my daughter but I can't seem to do so. Any
help you can offer would be more than appreciated. Thanks L
Dear L: Your daughter in only 2 years old, she will get over the fact that her father is not
with her all the time, but your Tarot cards indicate that you are on the verge of
a nervous breakdown. With all due respect, I see lots of excuses in your email for
not leaving, but I don’t see you declaring your desire to leave? Your baby’s father
is a liar and a cheat! And you need to get away from him! Point blank! Your Tarot
cards indicate that there will be another pregnancy with him and another woman in
the future and how are you going to handle that? (Have you ever seen the television
show called ‘Snapped?’ I fear for you!) Your real reason from staying is that you’re
hoping that he will change, but guess what? His planets indicate that you are his
safety net, he likes that fact that he has a solid home life with you, and he likes
being a Romeo! He gets a charge out of constantly ‘falling in love’ with other
women. As soon as his affairs become stale he leaves them to find some other
conquest, while you sit there and suffer from his disrespectful and immature
behavior, and guess what? He is not going to change! Someone has to take the lead
in this relationship, and as you can see, he is not a good leader in spite of the fact that
his Sun sign is in Leo. Take charge of your situation. Put your student loans on
hold by contacting the institutions which have them and get a deferment, starting
saving your money and look for a better job! Your planets indicate that you are in
a better career cycle, so you should put all your energy into finding a better paying
job so you can get your own place and put an end to this abuse! And do yourself a
favor and stop talking so much! Your planets suggest that you are all bark and little
bite! Your Moon in Capricorn is the real reason why you’re staying with him. You
long for a secure home and a secure relationship, but guess what, with him you have
neither! Stop fooling yourself and take one step at a time to get out before you are
faced with dealing with another baby’s mother! Your temper is not so good, and I
don’t want to see you on that program ‘Snapped!’ where people are depicted as
doing their partners in for good! You need to snap out of being a zombie and create
a better life for you and your daughter! Once he sees that you’re no longer under his
spell he will change! But you have to make the first step!
Be empowered! Kim Allen